Jesus warns, that each of us is born to carry out his work to the potential we are given.

If we do not carry out the work assigned by Jesus, we may be in serious problems. 

how do we forgive one that destroyed our family,that is a big ask from god yes?but he gave his only son to die for us not through his own sins as he did not sin but sins of mankind

would you take blame in court for another knowing you would be imprisoned?

would you give your only child to suffer?

would you ever forgive a person that wronged you.

answer can be found when jesus said unto the people that were going to stone to death a woman that committed adultry when he said let those that have not sinned cast the first stone and guess what not a stone was casted.

we are not and never will be perfect and god knows that but what he says is seek forgiveness and sin no more and yes we can do that cant we?

the devil plays all tricks on us but god has power over him if we believe and ask him to so really there are no excuses